Let me continue from yesterday’s post.
This isn’t just about international marriage—whenever we start thinking seriously about marriage, it's important to look beyond the surface and truly see who the other person is at their core.
But that can be hard sometimes.
Maybe you haven’t been in a relationship for a while.
Maybe you're feeling pressure from those around you because of your age or life stage.
Or maybe you’re not even sure if marriage is what you really want.
When you're in that space, it’s easy to start evaluating someone based on external factors—like their background, job, or lifestyle—instead of tuning into how you actually feel when you’re with them.
In other words, it’s easy to become too focused on whether they meet certain conditions, and lose sight of the deeper connection.
1. Emotional Stability and Inner Independence
When you're considering someone as a potential life partner—someone you might eventually live with—their energy and level of emotional maturity become very important.
“Energy” can sound a bit abstract, but here’s what I mean: being with someone who is emotionally stable, generally in a good mood, and knows how to manage their own emotions makes daily life much more peaceful and enjoyable.
On the other hand, people who are quick to anger often have a mindset of blaming others. In a relationship, this can lead to unnecessary arguments over the smallest things.
People with higher vibrational energy—regardless of gender—tend to have a calm emotional rhythm. Even without saying much, they express gratitude through their actions and presence.
As women, our moods can shift due to hormones, parenting, or simply random fluctuations. So it's a huge plus when your partner has the emotional capacity to understand that and not take it personally. Someone who stays grounded and has room in their heart for your ups and downs can even lift your own energy just by being there.
A partner who naturally focuses on joy and gratitude—that’s someone truly worth cherishing.
2. Accepts You as You Are
When someone’s in love with you, this might not seem like a big deal at first.
But as the saying goes, romantic passion has an expiration date, and it’s important to see whether what they feel is just temporary excitement—or something deeper.
The real key is whether they respect you.
Not your resume or accomplishments, but you—your thoughts, your feelings, your life experiences, just as you are.
A person who doesn’t judge you, who accepts you fully, is someone who can become a true teammate in life.
Because at the heart of marriage is partnership. You want someone who supports your growth and truly has your back—otherwise, marriage can start to feel suffocating.
There was a time when I hesitated about getting remarried because I feared it might take away my freedom.
But in the end, that wasn’t the case at all. I’ve never felt more free.
Right now, I’m enjoying a quiet solo trip back home, and my partner supports everything I do. In fact, I feel more adventurous and independent than I did when I was single.
If marriage ever feels restrictive, it’s not always the partner’s fault—it can also come from our own limiting beliefs. It’s something to be mindful of.
When you're with someone who wants to build a relationship that honors who you truly are, you naturally feel safe to be yourself.
Things start to flow. The relationship evolves with ease.
It’s almost surprising how many obstacles simply fade away.
In fact, I’ve noticed that many deeply connected couples—partners who are truly devoted—share these qualities of emotional generosity and deep respect. It’s not about gender. It’s about character.
That said, at the beginning of any relationship, it’s normal to feel some differences in values or a few small “off” moments.
So be careful not to rely too much on intuition alone and rush to judgment. Sometimes, you just need time to understand each other.
3. Someone Who Is Sincere and Trustworthy
In any loving partnership, trust is the foundation of everything.
And that trust isn’t built through grand gestures—it’s formed little by little, through everyday words and actions.
It’s about whether their words match their behavior.
It’s not just about “They don’t cheat,” “They don’t hurt me,” or “They don’t betray me.”
If those are your main concerns, it might be time to turn your focus inward and practice a bit more self-love first. ♡
True sincerity—consistent, grounded honesty—brings a deep sense of safety to your heart.
When we’re younger, we often chase excitement and butterflies.
But as we grow older—especially after 40—many of us start craving a relationship that gives us a sense of peace and emotional security.
Of course, excitement and thrill have their own charm. The highs, the intensity, even the bittersweet moments after—it’s all part of the romance.
But when that cycle repeats over and over, it can leave you feeling empty or anxious.
So ask yourself:
Do you want to keep chasing the rush of romance?
Or are you ready to build a relationship that aligns with your vision of a true partnership?
Whatever you choose is completely up to you.
What matters most is that you’re moving toward what you truly want.
The Most Important Thing
So far, I’ve shared some key points to help you recognize whether someone might be a good partner for building a loving relationship.
But above all, the most important thing is whether your own energy is aligned with the kind of partnership you desire.
You don’t have to be perfect.
You don’t need to match your partner in every way, or tick all the same boxes.
And of course, you can’t truly know someone after just one meeting.
But remember this: you are the one who brings out the best in the other person.
Think about it—we often show up differently depending on who we’re with, right? (We’ve all been there, haven’t we? 😄)
So how do you bring out someone’s true potential?
This is where the law of attraction also comes into play.
Even if you’ve managed to manifest your ideal partner or attract a wonderful connection…
That’s only the beginning. The real journey starts after you’ve met.
The most beautiful relationships are co-created—where both people grow and evolve together.
So may you find a partnership where you can create something truly special, together.